12 Surprisingly Simple Tips for Traveling as a Couple

12 Surprisingly Simple Tips for Traveling as a Couple

What is going on ladies and gentlemen ,Vagabuddies? Welcome back to the channel. Today’s video is a little bit different. Lately we’ve been getting lots of questions from you guys and girls out there about how to travel with your significant other or tips for traveling as a couple. So I figured I would introduce you, or reintroduce you, to my girlfriend, Carrie Rad. Hello Vagabuddies. I do a self-care content, primarily. I do travel and lifestyle content, and I talk about ways to take care of yourself. First and foremost, if you have not subscribed to Carrie, do yourself a favor.. Check her channel out, hit that subscribe button. Traveling as a couple can be the ultimate test to a relationship. It could probably end your relationship. A lot of really strong relationships fail when they go out and travel together because travel can be inherently stressful. Basically today we’ve come together to share with you guys and girls some of the tips that we have found out, sometimes the hard way, through nearly two years of traveling together. So to start things off, we’re just going to list out some pros and cons of traveling as a couple. Pro: sex is guaranteed. Con: nightlife is probably less likely to happen as a couple just because you have less incentive to go out. Why would you go out to eat if you have a Michelin star meal at home? Unless of course you’re actually going to a Michelin star restaurant, in which case you should totally go out to eat. Speaking of food… Pro: you can always taste more food when you’re sharing. Con: some partners eat more than other partners. Mmm. Sounds very familiar. You have double the money to spend so when it comes to the place that you’re staying, like an Airbnb, you can get a nicer space. You don’t need a second bed or a second room, so you’re spending less, but your money goes much further. One of the cons is that if you’re not careful, and you don’t communicate clearly, one person may feel like they’re pulling more weight and covering the costs of the other person’s all-expenses-paid vacation. Pro: you have two brains to come up with more ideas, which means more fun adventures. You ready Carrie? Ready. Let’s go. The con to that is that usually one person tends to take the lead naturally, and that can leave the other person feeling like a little bit ignored or undervalued. And it could cause resentment later on in the trip. A lot of the reason why couples tend to argue when they’re traveling is all about communication. Sometimes couples can have widely different ideas about what they want to do on their travels, and having expectation is a surefire way to get let down. Here’s a scenario that’s all too familiar in this day and age. Babe, do you have your phone with you? This is a perfect photo op for Instagram. You know, I just I really want to just unplug and I didn’t bring my phone and… I thought we were going on this trip primarily for Instagram. I didn’t even bring my phone. We should have talked about this beforehand. So avoid the let down by having a long, clear conversation before you go about what your expectations are for the trip,. what you want to get out of it, where you want to go and why, and then once you’ve done that, sit down and listen to your partner’s take on their ideas for the trip. Then compare notes and compromise. One of the most important things that you can do is to talk about your budget, clearly. What really works for us is just going Dutch as they say, which literally means splitting the costs fifty-fifty right down the middle. But also try to keep it fair. You don’t have to be counting every single penny because if you’re getting obsessive about keeping it 100% totally even, then you might cause a little bit of bad blood. You don’t want to spend your trip thinking about every single little penny, you want to enjoy the trip. Super important tip: eat before you get “hangry.” Yeah, I’m the queen of hangry I’m the king of hangry. So things do not go well when we are hangry. We’ve learned the hard way that we start to get kind of snappy and disrespectful when we’re hungry, but it’s only our stomachs talking. It’s not the real you. Avoid it. Get snacks. Stock up. Talk over breakfast about what your lunch and dinner plans are, and if they’re few and far between, if you’re on a road trip, or you have to cover a lot of distance, if you’re traveling via plane, just make sure that you’re stocked up on snacks, that your tummies are full, and it will just make everything that much better. And anyways, when you’re traveling food is one of the best parts of travel, anyways. So if you talk about it at breakfast, then you’ll make sure you hit all of your spots that you want to go. What about sleeping habits, Carrie? I would say generally, you are like getting ready for bed way earlier than I am. Also waking up. And also.. oh my god, yeah. Carrie is an ultimate morning person. The reason why I like waking up really early in the morning is because I really, really like personal time and the morning when I’m having my coffee. It feels like the rest of the world is still asleep, and then there’s a bonus because when he wakes up in the morning, coffee has already been made. Goals. But that brings us to our next talking point, which is valuing personal space and personal time. Travel can foster immense personal growth, especially solo travel. But traveling as a couple sometimes you don’t have that space to kind of let your wings spread a little bit and really dive into your destination and dive a little bit deeper into yourself. A lot of the questions that we got which we will be answering in specifics over on Carrie’s channel on the video that we’re doing on her channel, were about how to figure out your travel itinerary when one partner wants to do one thing and the other partner wants to do something totally different. And I think that the easy solution to that is just accepting that.. hey ,we’re two people here. We might have different desires when it comes to what we’re going to do in a destination, and giving each other the time to do that. And use that time and space to embrace your individuality and explore an adventure and create moments with yourself, and then at the end of the day when you guys reunite, you can talk about your travels and your experiences, and all the adventures you had during that day. And at the end of the day, that just brings you closer, and it doesn’t even need to be a full day. It could be something as small as, “Cool. I’ll see you in an hour or two. We can meet at this little coffee shop, and we can rendezvous.” For example, Carrie you might go to a market and go shopping, and I would go on a trail run or go surfing, and those two activities might seem like polar opposites, but if you give each other a little bit of room to breathe, it can all be fit in. Which brings us to our next point: compromise. Let’s take a little quick second here…Okay Google, what is the definition of compromise? Compromise: an agreement or a settlement of the dispute that is reached by each side making concessions. Which basically means both sides are equally unhappy with the final product. No. That is not what compromise means. What does it mean then? It just means to be understanding of your partner’s plan and what they want to do and to make sacrifices. Mm-hmm. Sometimes when you’re on a trip, it’s impossible to do the two things that both of you want to do at the same time. When that is the case, be the bigger person and concede a little bit and say, ” All right cool.” Well, today we’ll do the thing that you want to do, and hopefully tomorrow, we can do the thing that I want to do. Mm-hmm, but also I think that talking about everything that you want to get beforehand like we mentioned before is a really great way to avoid having to sacrifice too much and avoid having to compromise all of the time. If you have a game plan, it pretty much solves that problem. Which brings me to our next point… which is… have a plan, but don’t over plan. Over planning is a guaranteed way to totally destroy the spontaneity and the carefree aspect of travel. When you over plan something, you feel the stress. You feel like you need to be doing something or you need to be somewhere at a certain time, and that really just kind of removes you from the moment, It’s really going to negatively affect your trip. For us the best part of traveling together is disconnecting and relaxing. If you have a plan set in place and you’re worrying about that all the time, you’re not going to be able to relax. The best things about travelling together, what I love most, is having a full day with no plans, and we can either stay in bed all day if we want to or we can go on some crazy adventures. And I think having that option when you wake up in the morning, depending on how you’re feeling, is really important. For example, Carrie and I went to Costa Rica for two weeks last summer. It was an amazing trip. It was a real big unplug neither of us had taken like a proper vacation. I know we travel a lot ,but traveling for work and traveling for pleasure sometimes are two very different things. When we went to Costa Rica, we had a really loose plan. I knew that I wanted to spend a couple days in Playa Hermosa, and I wanted to spend a couple of days in the far south of the country at a wave called Pavones. There was a lot of distance to be covered in between those two things, and Carrie was like, ” Well, where are we going to stay in between?” We kind of just played it by ear. And that was one of the best calls. Mm-hmm. It was really neat just going on a road trip and not having a plan, and we did cover so much distance. But we enjoyed every minute of it, and when Alex was surfing a lot, my plan (and we talked about beforehand) was to just disconnect and relax, soak up the sun, read, take naps. I just wanted to do whatever I wanted every single day, and when he was gone surfing, I had a lot of me time, and it was amazing. On a side note… Carrie did forget to put sunscreen on the first day we were there. I knew you were going to say that. And you got a… you soaked up the sun. Your buns soaked up the sun. You got a third degree booty burn, baby. I had a booty burn. Wear sunscreen. Okay, we’re getting towards the end of our tips for you guys and girls out there, but one of the most important ones is just to slow down. Relax. Take it easy. Take in the moment of being there together as a couple, and make sure that you’re aware in the moment. Keep your mindset as……. I’m here with my significant other, the person that I love, and I want to embrace every moment that we have together. Also, just realize that travel can be stressful if you let it be stressful. It’s pretty much guaranteed that something is going to go wrong on your trip. You might miss a flight. You might get a flat tire. Just look at it as part of the adventure. Realize that you’re there with your best travel companion, and it’s all just part of the journey. The more you can kind of remove yourself from the expectations, remove yourself from the stress and the hustle and bustle of life at home, it’s just going to really allow you to soak it up that much more. And when you look back at it, it’s always those tough moments that end up being the most memorable ones from a trip. Just being on a trip with your significant other, you grow so much as a couple. You learn so much about each other, and it just overall can be so great for your relationship…. which is our last piece of advice…. which is use your trip together as an opportunity to fall in love again, to remind yourself what you really love about your partner and why you’ve chosen to be with that person. Remember that you’re there with somebody that you love. So give them the time and attention that they want too because at the end of the day, that’s really what you’re doing as a couple when you’re on vacations together. You’re reconnecting. I think it’s important to remember that. All right ladies and gentlemen, well that is all. If you enjoyed this video, give it a big- thumbs up, tag your significant other or the people or couples that you travel with, and let us know your comments, your tips down in the comment section. If you have not already subscribed to Carrie’s channel [carrierad], make sure you head over there and do that. While you’re over there, check out the collab video that we shot answering your questions about how to travel better as a couple. Yes. Thank you guys for watching. Thank you for having me over on this channel. Yeah, stay curious keep exploring, and we will see you on the road. Peace. You

100 thoughts on “12 Surprisingly Simple Tips for Traveling as a Couple

  1. These are some really great tips. We always say travelling with your partner is a great test for a relationship due to the stress and new situations you're put in as a couple. Sometimes you even get to see a completely new side to the person that you're with which can sometimes be good or really bad ? If you can survive a long trip together, you're probably a good fit for one another 😉

  2. It’s good test to the relationship to travel together for at least 2 weeks or longer before getting married to see if you’re compatible enough. If you cannot travel together, you can’t live together. Bottom line

  3. Great tips! I will be using this when we take our honeymoon in Ireland! Thank you both so much for this video…

  4. No way …you guys are together ?! ????omgggg …I totally love Carrie but had no idea she was your girlfriend. ???this is awesome ???

  5. ? I like the way she looks at him. It's soooo sweet! You can tell they genuinely like eachother, not just for the gram. Omg❤ total goals

  6. Thanks for sharing! You are extremely talented. I love to travel too:)I in recent weeks revealed my first ever movie – My travel diary in Queenstown. Eep!Would certainly appreciate your feedback on my video/editing so I could improve like you!

  7. Thanks both these videos were helpful, my fiance and I will be spending 3 weeks in Japan in October and it will be the longest period of time we've spent together in our 14 year relationship

  8. OMG I DIDNT KNOW YOU WERE/ARE CARRIE RADS SO!!! I followed you guys separately at different times, months apart, and I recently found her and LOVE her content

  9. Super awesome tips. I would add that if you're both a new couple, to take a weekend trip first. Start out slow, and save those longer trips for further down when the relationship is ready for a little more challenge.

  10. We love a full day with no plans because we are always up for new adventures! Or sleeping because Jesse is always jetlag!

  11. So true being hangry is seriously troublesome when it comes to travel! I try to bring snacks everyday to avoid it. Also trying new food is one of my fav parts, so sharing meals is the biggest bonus.

  12. Wow wow wow! What a great informative video. So much great info, mostly common sense but we tend to overlook it and you guys beautifully put it into perspective. So much personality and thankfully no rambling.

  13. awesome I loved it. where was the destination with Carrie in the tent in the garden? would love to go there it's beautiful

  14. This is simply beautiful. I learnt to slow down travelling with my girlfriend the hard way as well. But since then, we've been starting to enjoy it way more than before.

  15. Soon will be traveling around seeing all we can of GODS BEAUTIFUL CREATION, LORD WILLING. I LOVE MY WIFE SO MUCH!!!
    I remember the first time we met. It was january 11th 1974 and we went
    Out on our first date and we had a great time. I remember when I took
    Her home that night we we're making out in my car sitting in her drive
    Way. It was so sweet, so hot, and so fine. We didn't want to stop, we
    We would of went all night If her dad wasn't flipping on and off the
    Porch light letting her know to come In. We was fogging up the window's
    of the car and burning up. We fell In LOVE that night, not sex, LOVE.
    I remember latter sitting on her front porch one day talking about us.
    I remember telling her It was ME or her so called friends, No more
    NOTHING. WE CHOSE US. I then told her I would marry her one day and we
    Would spend the rest of OUR life with each other and take care of
    Each other as we grow old together, WE SAID YES. She was 15 teen and I
    Was 16 teen at that time, We we're so In love with each other and just
    Wanted to spend every second of time together that we could. I joined
    The marines In 1975 I was 17 teen when I went to boot camp. HER DAD
    TALKED ME INTO IT, he said WHEN I got back from Paris Island I could
    Marry staci. Needless to say, HE LIED. They told us they would sign
    For us but they didn't. They wanted her to finish school first. I begged
    and pleated with them that I'd see that she would If they would let us
    get married, but they wouldn't. Both our heart's was broken. So We went
    together for three year's, And two day's after staci birthday We got
    Married. At that time I still don't think they we're to happy about It.
    But latter on I became the son they never had. I't was april 4th 1977
    And we've been together ever since. Now 44 year's latter she Is still
    SO HOT, SO FINE, AND SO BEAUTIFUL She is my wife, my friend, my lover,
    My ONLY TRUE LOVE, the mother of my son and daughter, she is my breath,
    My everything. Without her I don't exist PERIOD!!! I love her more than
    The sky is big, More than word's can say. I still write her love note's
    Every morning, And I still can't get enough of her, And I NEVER WILL !!!
    She is so precious to me and I THANK GOD WITH ALL MY HEART FOR HER AND
    HAVE BEEN SINCE THE DAY WE MET. We camp, We fish, We ride our motorcycle,
    We ride our trike, We yard sale, We shop, We go everywhere together.
    You see we have what so MANY don't have, REAL TRUE LOVE. WE WAKE UP
    BEFORE WE GO ANYWHERE PERIOD. Ever since we ask JESUS CHRIST into our
    HEART"S OUR LOVE HAS ONLY GROWN STRONGER. We did that In the mid 80's
    And It's been the very best thing we 've ever DONE PERIOD. There Is NO

  16. Hey guys! I really appreciate the tips because I've seen most of them when traveling with my girlfriend. Now we decided to quit everything again and we will start our journey traveling next year and I think those tips will help us a lot. Thank you! 
    "Happiness is only real when shared"

  17. Great channel and subject matter, My wife and I watch you guys all the time. I do have a question, top 3 vacation sites outside US?

  18. Great tips, my girlfriend is studying in university so I’m paying for the both of us to go away to Nossi Bi. She is currently contemplating quitting university so we can travel full time. Do you have any advice whether she should quit or continue with the course for another 3 years?

  19. The only fights I have had with my gf whilst travelling are because she gets really hangry. I have learned the hard way to always carry some snacks with me lol. When it comes to spending, we have a joint account and all the expenses come from there. In the UK Starling bank actually makes it really easy.

  20. Love the tips! After we have finished uni me and my boyfriend plan to go to Europe for a few months just travelling and seeing different countries

  21. Where is the exotic place you keep showing? The one where you're swimming with the waterfall behind you. Also the one where @CarrieRad is walking around in a robe.

  22. This is my first video watching both of you.. and im hooked! What awsome content! Btw, idk why, but my 1ST impression of Carrie was like, 'She seems so genuine, nice, and like an awsome friend,' Anyone else?

  23. Going on our first trip together in July! having been a solo traveller in the past, id say my biggest fear is for him not wanting to go off the beaten path as much as I do… he's very weary about places he doesn't know while I'm super adventurous and comfortable since I've done it for a year on my own

  24. hahaha when you said ok google what is the definition of compromise hahaha my google home answered too and scared the hell out of me!!!

  25. Do you have a video of your Costa Rica trip? I’m going in July. I need some help about traveling within the country. Thanks

  26. Great tips! Travel can be stressful at times but when you are with your significant other it is easier to overcome issues!

  27. Traveling for work haha come on, traveling for work is going NYC to London and sitting in meetings and not even having time to see the sights not getting paid to see them all. Love the vids though.

  28. Very true, sex is guaranteed but another benefit to having a hot travel partner is it makes it easier and more fun to have sexual adventures with other couples or bi singles. We call this Travel with Benefits.

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  30. اَلسَلامُ عَلَيْكُم وَرَحْمَةُ اَللهِ وَبَرَكاتُهُ‎
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  31. OMG!!! You guys were dead on with the couples travel therapy video!. I needed this back in 2009 when my husband and I traveled to Spain for our honeymoon. From NY JFK we boarded the plane late (not my fault), we wanted to do different things because we had separate interests (who knew?) I over-planned; but we got to see different parts of España… however; the best part of our trip was 1) we got lost in Toledo, which meant we had to cooperate with one another, which doing so, we found our way back down to the train station. 2) our flight back to JFK was delayed a day, my luggage was sent ahead and I didn't have clothes to change into in the morning. But my husband did the most amazing thing (without me asking) he roamed the streets of Madrid to find me an outfit to wear on the flight home. After that gesture of kindness, he became my hero, but wait… there's more! Iberian Airlines put us up in a ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Hotel. Our trip ended on a great note. For our 10 years anniversary, we are going to Germany, Austria and Prague! Great video you guys!

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  33. Wow guys!!! 1 I've a relationship with my gf and we've traveled so many times and I recognize all points that you say… I have experienced all! So nice to see that we're not the only ones!! Keep on traveling!! We have two kids now and we see that making concessions, giving each other time to do whatever they want is even a bigger challenge, but we make it work! Love your channel!!!

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