When is the right time to bring
a significant other around during the holiday season?
>>[LAUGH] What?>>[LAUGH]>>You guys are saying two months? Two years into it, okay.
>>Two years?>>I think, okay, first of all, I think that there is a certain protocol. It depends on whose house you’re going to. If you go to Grandma house, bring
the person that you’re in a long term or you’re serious about. Your auntie house is where
you can bring your boo of the month, okay?
>>[APPLAUSE]>>That’s for me.>>Grandma earns a little bit more respect and longevity.
>>But your auntie understands, she’s like, [LAUGH] that’s that thing,
right, this month. [LAUGH] I got you, girl. I got you.
>>I like her.
>>[LAUGH]>>Am I wrong for saying, I think it’s on you, whatever you feel? Different relationships
do different things. There’s been people that
you could be with for years and
you don’t wanna bring them around. There’s people you’ve been with for months, and you’re like,
I wanna introduce you to my parents. So I think every situation is different. In this case, I think sometimes
this is a great learning lesson. Stop telling everybody your business and what happens in your relationships now.
>>[APPLAUSE]>>But it’s the holidays and people are naturally nosey. So they wanna know who you with,
and if you don’t bring somebody, they be looking at you all cross-eyed and like what is you now and stuff?
>>Yeah, but if you talk bad about that person and then you guys get back
together, that’s why your family’s mad. Because they heard all the bad things
he did to you, which, by the way, you definitely only told
your side of the story.>>Right, well, I will tell you this, if you do bring somebody, before you
bring that person, tell that person everything about your family, okay?
>>That’s what I was gonna say. My family will straight up
judge everything about you. They’ll watch where you go. They watch what you say. But my family’s so funny,
they love roasting. They love roasting people, so when I bring
people, I really bring you to put you in the pit of fire, just to see if you
can really hang and handle yourself. Cuz let’s say, for example,
if we have chicken wings, if you eat the chicken wings and
you leave the gristle on the side, my family will absolutely say,
he eat like the white people. I don’t like that, you eat all the wing.
>>[APPLAUSE]>>You know what I mean? So they’re gonna say that. They’re gonna be real. And you gotta be ready for that. If you can’t handle my family’s roast,
you ain’t meant to be in that.>>Yeah, and you gotta let them know.>>Yeah, you gotta let them know.>>My mama, Darlene, she did not play. If I had a guy I was dating and
I wasn’t serious about him, she wouldn’t want him to come over.
>>I haven’t met my brother Taylor’s girlfriends in four years. And it’s because she’s like,
are you serious about this chick? And Taylor’s like, I don’t know. And then she would be like, okay, well
then, I don’t wanna invest my time because my mom, you guys, my gosh,
she has the gift of discernment. And I used to be so afraid to bring
a boyfriend by because I knew her and my grandma, they would tell me the truth. I remember just showing my grandmother
a picture of my college boyfriend, and she was like, no, that ain’t it. I was like, my gosh,
I’m not telling you anything. So I would make sure that I was 100%
serious about the relationship before I would bring them over to my family at all.
>>Got it.>>See, this is what I say about relationships
during the holiday time. You know if a person really care about you
the way they treat you during the holiday time.
>>Yes.>>And if you’re not being invited to the family dinners and gatherings,
you might really need to understand what’s your place in that relationship.
>>Yes, yes.>>And that’s on serious.>>Yeah, there’s so much that can go on where you can really watch how they
introduce you to the others, how much they share the good things about you.
>>I like them old players, them old players, they’re okay,
this is my lady friend, Jeanie.>>[LAUGH]>>My lady friend.>>Well, we asked you guys, at what stage in dating is it appropriate
to bring someone around for the holidays? And @KColey said when you’re pregnant or if not pregnant after a year.
>>What?>>What is Coley talk about?>>I don’t know, when you’re pregnant or if not pregnant after a year.
>>When you’re pregnant or if not pregnant.
>>What does that mean?>>That means if they’re not married and this person is pregnant and she’s like, I’m important because
I’m carrying your child. You better bring me over
to your family’s house. Maybe it means that and maybe a year
if the person is not pregnant. I figured it out! I figured it out! [LAUGH]
>>That was hard.>>The Instagram whisperer, Tamara [CROSSTALK]
>>We got it figured out. Thank you, Tamara.