Should You Bring Bae Home for the Holidays?

Should You Bring Bae Home for the Holidays?

When is the right time to bring
a significant other around during the holiday season?
>>[LAUGH] What?>>[LAUGH]>>You guys are saying two months? Two years into it, okay.
>>Two years?>>I think, okay, first of all, I think that there is a certain protocol. It depends on whose house you’re going to. If you go to Grandma house, bring
the person that you’re in a long term or you’re serious about. Your auntie house is where
you can bring your boo of the month, okay?
>>[APPLAUSE]>>That’s for me.>>Grandma earns a little bit more respect and longevity.
>>But your auntie understands, she’s like, [LAUGH] that’s that thing,
right, this month. [LAUGH] I got you, girl. I got you.
>>I like her.
>>[LAUGH]>>Am I wrong for saying, I think it’s on you, whatever you feel? Different relationships
do different things. There’s been people that
you could be with for years and
you don’t wanna bring them around. There’s people you’ve been with for months, and you’re like,
I wanna introduce you to my parents. So I think every situation is different. In this case, I think sometimes
this is a great learning lesson. Stop telling everybody your business and what happens in your relationships now.
>>[APPLAUSE]>>But it’s the holidays and people are naturally nosey. So they wanna know who you with,
and if you don’t bring somebody, they be looking at you all cross-eyed and like what is you now and stuff?
>>Yeah, but if you talk bad about that person and then you guys get back
together, that’s why your family’s mad. Because they heard all the bad things
he did to you, which, by the way, you definitely only told
your side of the story.>>Right, well, I will tell you this, if you do bring somebody, before you
bring that person, tell that person everything about your family, okay?
>>That’s what I was gonna say. My family will straight up
judge everything about you. They’ll watch where you go. They watch what you say. But my family’s so funny,
they love roasting. They love roasting people, so when I bring
people, I really bring you to put you in the pit of fire, just to see if you
can really hang and handle yourself. Cuz let’s say, for example,
if we have chicken wings, if you eat the chicken wings and
you leave the gristle on the side, my family will absolutely say,
he eat like the white people. I don’t like that, you eat all the wing.
>>[LAUGH] Right.
>>[APPLAUSE]>>You know what I mean? So they’re gonna say that. They’re gonna be real. And you gotta be ready for that. If you can’t handle my family’s roast,
you ain’t meant to be in that.>>Yeah, and you gotta let them know.>>Yeah, you gotta let them know.>>My mama, Darlene, she did not play. If I had a guy I was dating and
I wasn’t serious about him, she wouldn’t want him to come over.
>>I haven’t met my brother Taylor’s girlfriends in four years. And it’s because she’s like,
are you serious about this chick? And Taylor’s like, I don’t know. And then she would be like, okay, well
then, I don’t wanna invest my time because my mom, you guys, my gosh,
she has the gift of discernment. And I used to be so afraid to bring
a boyfriend by because I knew her and my grandma, they would tell me the truth. I remember just showing my grandmother
a picture of my college boyfriend, and she was like, no, that ain’t it. I was like, my gosh,
I’m not telling you anything. So I would make sure that I was 100%
serious about the relationship before I would bring them over to my family at all.
>>Got it.>>See, this is what I say about relationships
during the holiday time. You know if a person really care about you
the way they treat you during the holiday time.
>>Yes.>>And if you’re not being invited to the family dinners and gatherings,
you might really need to understand what’s your place in that relationship.
>>Yes, yes.>>And that’s on serious.>>Yeah, there’s so much that can go on where you can really watch how they
introduce you to the others, how much they share the good things about you.
>>I like them old players, them old players, they’re okay,
this is my lady friend, Jeanie.>>[LAUGH]>>My lady friend.>>Well, we asked you guys, at what stage in dating is it appropriate
to bring someone around for the holidays? And @KColey said when you’re pregnant or if not pregnant after a year.
>>What?>>What is Coley talk about?>>I don’t know, when you’re pregnant or if not pregnant after a year.
>>When you’re pregnant or if not pregnant.
>>What does that mean?>>That means if they’re not married and this person is pregnant and she’s like, I’m important because
I’m carrying your child. You better bring me over
to your family’s house. Maybe it means that and maybe a year
if the person is not pregnant. I figured it out! I figured it out! [LAUGH]
>>That was hard.>>The Instagram whisperer, Tamara [CROSSTALK]
>>We got it figured out. Thank you, Tamara.

100 thoughts on “Should You Bring Bae Home for the Holidays?

  1. I remember when I wasnt even ready for my bf to meet my family but he just showed up at the restaurant where we were all eating smh๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ..nd we were only together for about 2 weeks

  2. Please warn your S/O because if your family is going to be rude id rather not….yes ive dumped someone because of their family. The first thing out your mouth should not be "why dont you have kids" ….becaue I will respond with "well I am not comfotable discussing that" if they cant respect it Ill excuse myself.

  3. My husbands native side is stuck up. I tried many times to invite them over. Even at bday parties they sit there all frowny faced. Everybody always asks them to dance to join in hitting pinata, eat the food but they just sit there. It sadness me that even on every day basis they just seem unhappy. When i laugh or try and joke around they make me feel unwanted,uncomfortable so i rarely go over or let my kids see grandparents. My mexican family is fun and crazy we laugh,eat,dance,play all kinds of music. We love everyone. We invite people over all the time. Its happy i wouldnt change my family for anything. To be honest when i ask my hubby where should we spend holidays he always says my family.

  4. When he puts a ring on it. Heres why: i come from a muslim family. In the muslim culture, "dating" is not a thing. You get arranged to be married to someone your family has known for a long time. . SO if i bring around any guy even if I am serious about him, my family will be up in arms talking about how he's gonna leave me and how he is not serious, and how he should marry me right away. When we are arranged, at least it shows my parents he IS serious and we about do it, whether they like it or not (leaving them no choice but to accept it)

  5. Ooh imagine if Tamera's brother's girlfriend is watching this ๐Ÿ˜‚
    This is not the first time she's shaded the unknown girlfriend as well…

  6. I guess it's an American thing. We africans don't expect anyone to show up with a SO unless you're married, then it's realistic to expect that someone is coming with their spouse.

  7. I think when you know the relationship is solid because ugh I havenโ€™t been through it but I can imagine that itโ€™s the worst when you are going through a break up and the family is like โ€œwhere is he? What happened?โ€. So if you date someone and it doesnโ€™t work out you donโ€™t feel like you owe the family explanations cuz they donโ€™t know about that person

  8. I've brought dates or people i'm just hanging with to family gatherings too. it's all about having a good time, not dead serious.

  9. lmao my family loves roasting people too ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ i love bringing someone around and they just roast them for no reason

  10. even after 2 years?? i feel like something might be wrong in the relationship if you canโ€™t bring the person over for the holidays after a few years. like that must be a hint that that person is not the one

  11. I very much agree with Adrienne. It's up to you, it's your business and situation. But during Christmas and New Year's Eve, I don't bring my bae at home not because I don't want to but because I respect the fact that he has his own family too.

  12. It's so different here in South Africa for black people. I come from a semi-traditionalist family so no boyfriend or girlfriend is coming to your family for the holidays. I mean he/she isn't even allowed passed your gate and into your yard unless he has paid lobola (bride price). It's seen as disrespectful if your significant other who is not your spouse comes to meet your family. They have to be serious about you and be making plans for marriage.

  13. My boyfriend and I are super serious about each other, we spoiled the crap out of each other this past holiday season(he spoiled me especially), but Iโ€™m his first gf and heโ€™s nervous so Iโ€™m giving him time and Iโ€™m also nervous about meeting families. And on the flip side Iโ€™m also nervous about him meeting mine since the last bf I introduced to my family was so awk and embarrassing. But we know each otherโ€™s place and I completely trust him, we just havenโ€™t done that yet.

  14. you have not been to Nigeria. They will introduce you to their fore fathers and you will still be the 10th side chic

  15. Iโ€™ve only brought one! Iโ€™m marrying him. โค๏ธ right now weโ€™re on vacation seeing his family!

  16. We were dating for 3 months, my parents wanted him to come at Xmas. I was saying No! But they convinced me to bring him. So 8 years later he is still here at xmas

  17. I donโ€™t think it matters but you should do it respectfully. My cousin came late during New Years and brought her very drunk boyfriend. The thing is, it was the first time we met him. Our cousins didnโ€™t mind nor my aunt or uncle bc theyโ€™re used to it, but I would never do that. If youโ€™re going to bring them, you should do it respectfully.

  18. No I donโ€™t think I can bring a guy who Iโ€™m not serious with over to special events. Like listen I come from an Asian background and I tell you they talk!! Omg as soon as your partner steps in the house my family will already be judging. My cousin he has bought a few of his girlfriends over to important family gatherings and the whole family has talked and gossip about it. Thatโ€™s why I wonโ€™t be bringing a guy over unless Iโ€™ve been with him for at least 3-5 years.

  19. I agree with Adrienne. Thatโ€™s something that YOU should feel. I wouldnโ€™t bring my significant other to a family event if I wasnโ€™t serious about then or if I just met them.

    No, Iโ€™m not going to wait two years to introduce someone to my family. I donโ€™t have a timeframe. But if I feel like itโ€™s strongly heading that direction, Iโ€™d do so.

  20. I been together with my boyfriend he is in the military we been talking for a month in a half do u guys itโ€™s bad he is coming on the holidays

  21. 2 years ? Damn that long as time. Iโ€™m w/ Loni it depends on who house ๐Ÿ˜‚ …. If I bring u to my dad house we definitely serious ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ thereโ€™s no time limit tho just depends on how u feel about the person

  22. My dad or brother in law doesn't acknowledge my boyfriend until at least a year to determine if it is serious. He doesn't exist to them. My boyfriend's family is like "When are we gonna meet her?" So I will be seeing them in the next 6 months or so. My family? The next 10. ๐Ÿ˜‘

  23. I am that auntie ๐Ÿ˜‚. I ainโ€™t gone judge ๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ˜‚. But you best be careful out here in these streets. Thank goodness my niece and nephew are still little kids ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚.

  24. I know Tamera and Tia are twins, but theyโ€™ve always looked so different to me. I could always tell the difference. Today is the first time (when Tamera was talking about her Mom & Grandma) where she actually looked IDENTICAL to Tia (IMO) it reminded me that she was a twin! ๐Ÿ˜‚ so cool!

  25. I never talk bad about my partner to family and friends. Im so private nobody ever new what my problems were. My family is very nice and diplomatic they would never have drama. If i bring someone over to meet my family they would treat his so well my family holds me to high steem if i bring someone they would be courios whos the lucky guy.
    I would introduce someone if im dating are we are comfortable. I never bring up stuff infront of the family and would never put him on blast.

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